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We know how much everyone loves it when we do not give a yes or no answer to their questions. Realistically, sometimes, the question can not be so easily answered. For instance, are you allowed to start dating during a divorce?

Simple answer- yes.
Real answer- maybe. It depends on the totality of the circumstances and the real question is whether you *should* date.

To hear our thoughts on the matter, please check out our reel on Instagram:
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Or Facebook:

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As always, we are grateful for your support of and trust in us for the most personal aspects of your life.

Regards,
John & Faye

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Lifestyle Matters.

Lifestyle choices amongst couples can be SO different; sometimes the decisions made are directly related to income, but other times it is a conscious choice of how the couple wishes to handle their finances.

Massachusetts Probate and Family Courts made a ruling which provides clarification as to how alimony may be calculated based upon lifestyle Openshaw v. Openshaw, 493 Mass. 599 (2024). In Openshaw, the court determined that a spouse receiving alimony may be entitled to an order which includes a savings component IF the couple previously focused on building a retirement portfolio rather than spending. This ruling expands the definition of “need” in determining an appropriate amount of alimony. Factors include:
1. Consistent contributions to savings or retirement during the marriage and the reasonable expectation that it would continue in the future; and
2. The ability of the payor to continue to fund the savings or retirement post- divorce.

The ruling has generally been well received, as it is intended to equalize post divorce standards of living. As always, we’re curious whether you think of this decision.

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Pliability.

Pliability.
/ˌplīəˈbilədē/
noun: the quality of being easily bent; flexibility.
– Google Dictionary

If you live in New England, the word “pliability” may trigger thoughts about Tom Brady and Alex Guerrero. Arguably, Brady has been able to play into his 40’s and gain legendary status because of his commitment to pliability. 

Pliability is a must for the family of all professional athletes and coaches. Like having someone enlisted in the military, it is a full family commitment to crazy, constantly moving schedules.

Brady is not unique in that his family is blended; he has a child from a previous relationship and two children with his wife. What would happen if the mother of his oldest son wasn’t pliable?

No Super Bowl or parade for the kid even though his dad is the GOAT. Without knowing any of the parties or the specifics of their parenting agreement, it is unlikely that Brady always has visitation on the first Sunday of every February or the following week reserved so his son can ride in a parade (though it might be smart to do so).  Without some pliability by his mom,  the poor kid would miss these extraordinary, once (or six times) in a lifetime, experiences. While we realize that Brady’s specific concerns are not typical, they actually are pretty common.

Take the fairly typical “overnights every other weekend and dinner once or twice during the week” scenario. What if there is a big family event that the child would miss because it’s not the “right”  weekend for the parent?  What if Mom or Dad travel for work?  What if one of the parents or the child(ren) are sick? Ideally, both parents are pliable and do what is best for the child(ren).

Co-parenting can be bit trickier if the parents live far apart from one another. Typical visits are longer in duration, but less frequent. For some parents, it means commuting back and forth to where their child lives. In this scenario, the local parent should really be pliable if the parent shows up late, arrives early or needs to reschedule due to weather. 

Simply put, there is no “one size fits all” for co-parenting schedules and life happens. When developing a plan, the parents  should consider the needs, preferences and best interest of the child.  They should also be (wait for it) PLIABLE.

As always, please let us know if we can help you with developing a parenting agreement that works for you or any other legal matter.

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Clark Griswold

 

“Unravel these. We need to check every bulb. Ooops. Little knot here, you can work on that.”
-Clark Griswold to his son, Russ, as he hands him 25 strands of Christmas lights

You can admit it. You LOVE decorating for the holidays. Tell us the truth: are you a more HGTV or Clark Griswold?

Decorating your home can really get you into a festive mood for any holiday; however is it a good idea to decorate for the holidays when you are getting ready to sell your house? We asked a realtor her thoughts on this important question. Her answer was “it depends” and “maybe.”

It depends whether you have already taken marketing photos of your house: Marketing photos of your house should not include holiday decorations. Any decorations will “date” your photos and might make your home appear as though it has been on the market for a long time.

Decorating can make or break your staging: Decorating a home that is already on the market can help people to visualize themselves celebrating future holidays there too. Decorations should be traditional and serene. For instance, pumpkins and corn stalks are perfect for Halloween and Thanksgiving. Single colored lights will highlight your landscaping and a small Mensch on the Bench may provide a dash of blue color on white shelves. Overall, as a former law professors once said, “keep it simple.”

For specific ideas, HGTV has some thoughts on staging your house during the holidays:
https://www.hgtv.com/design/real-estate/staging-tips-for-selling-during-the-holidays

What is YOUR favorite holiday to decorate for every year?

As always, please let us know if we can help you with this or any other matter.

Warm Regards,
John and Faye

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What do Charlie Sheen & Ninja Turtle Kush Have in Common?

What Do Charlie Sheen and Ninja Turtle Kush Have in Common?

What do you think of when you read the following phrases?
Charlie Sheen.
Goofy Boots.
Ninja Turtle Kush.
Green Crack.

Are you confused or laughing right now? If you are confused, you probably know these terms:
Weed.
Cannabis.
Marijuana.
Pot.

As we approach the one year anniversary of marijuana legalization in Massachusetts, here are a couple of quick updates to laws within the Commonwealth:
Chapter 55 of the Acts of 2017 created the Cannabis Advisory Board and Cannabis Control Commission. The board is making recommendations regarding regulations and taxation of marijuana. Cities and towns may establish zoning by-laws and ordinances which allow commercial growing and cultivation. Cities and town may also impose a local sales tax of up to 3% upon the sale of marijuana and marijuana products (in addition to the 17% percent state sales tax);
Chapter 94I has specified that a person cannot be arrested or prosecuted for being in the presence of medical use and that insurance companies are not obligated to reimburse patients for the use of medical marijuana.
As always, please let us know if you have questions regarding this or anything else.

Faye & John

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