2020 has been the most “2020” year ever. We have had all sorts of odd surprises, like an earthquake in Bristol County and the death of Eddie Van Halen; to the contrary, we are not really surprised by the litigation of the Presidential election results.

We will take no position on the allegations, merits or likelihood of success regarding the challenges to the election results; however, we are certainly interested in the legal argument and precedent that might be created.

Here’s what we know so far:
1. Election law is it’s own specialty and one that we don’t have any experience with firsthand;
2. Election laws vary from state to state at this point; and
3. There is some pretty solid case law already established which may determine what happens next.

If you are interested in learning more about some of the established law in specific states, follow this link for more information:
https://www.whitehouse.gov/sites/whitehouse.gov/files/docs/pacei-voterfraudcases.pdf

 

 

There are moments in life where the world just suddenly stops and pauses to reflect for a moment; for us, the death of Justice Ruth Bader Ginsberg is one of those times.

The hearings leading up to her confirmation on the Supreme Court of the United States was arguably the last time that a confirmation had solely to do with qualifications. Her legacy as a Justice should set the standard for the future of the Supreme Court where she was well respected for her work and work ethic.

We could certainly discuss some of her contributions to case law and culture, but, for us, we are currently focusing on how she treated others during her career and life. Even those who did not agree with her decisions and dissents understand that she always did what she thought was right and did it in a respectful manner. Rumor has it that Justice Scalia, who often had a different thought process, was one of her closest friends. There is no stronger statement that can be made of how friendships based on mutual respect and interest in understanding someone else’s perspective.

We are not going to make any statement regarding whether we think President Trump and the Senate should move forward in nominating Justice Ginsberg’s successor; however, we offer this link to anyone seeking information on the appointment process, limitations and obligations regarding timing and appointment of a Justice:

https://fas.org/sgp/crs/misc/R44235.pdf

Pretty much every time that we talk about child custody or parenting, the phrase “Best Interest of the Child” is either uttered or written. IF you have been divorced within the last decade or so, you have attended a parent education class which focuses on co-parenting.

 

We can actually tell a lot about our clients depending on how they react to the parenting class. Great parents seem to take the class hoping to gain some ideas and bad parents often think that they information doesn’t apply to them.

 

The principles should be basic but we want to share them nonetheless. If you are a co-parent, there are things that you should never ever do:

1. Never talk negatively about your co-parent. Your child loves both parents and, if you talk trash about their other parent, they will potentially internalize it as disapproval of who they are as an individual;

2. If the co-parent starts dating someone or gets married, do not criticize that new person to your child.  Children need to form their own opinions and build their own relationships;

3. Do not cancel out on parenting time if you can avoid it. Things happen: people get sick, work runs late and emergencies happen. Cancellations should be the exceptions, not the standard;

4. Do not set rules in your home that are drastically different from the home they have with your co-parent. Will there be some minor differences? Of course. The best things for a child are stability, structure and predictability. It doesn’t make a huge difference if one home eats at 5pm versus 6pm, but bed times that are hours apart will create a grumpy and confused child;

5. Do not spoil your children too much during your parenting time. It’s really tempting to be the “fun parent,” especially if you are not with your child on a daily basis. Kids do not love you because you sneak them extra cookies (though many grandparents would disagree);

6. Do not leave your homework to the other parent. Almost nobody enjoys Common Core math but chances are good that one parent doesn’t mind it as much as the other. Work together to use your talents, skills and knowledge whenever possible. Your children will benefit academically and they will know that both parents make them a top priority;

7.  Do not ignore your children when you have time with them. Consider playing XBox WITH your child instead of just letting them sit in the basement alone. Quality time is almost more important than quanity;

8. Do not forget to have fun together while also teaching life lessons. Chores are not really fun, but they are important and can be done together. Teach your child to mow the lawn, do laundry and other life skills, then celebrate a job well done together; and

9. Do not introduce your child to ever person that you date. If you are serious with someone, it might be appropriate that your child gets to know this new person. Before you introduce that person to your child, talk with the other parent and the child to let them know that this is going to happen so that everyone can support the child emotionally. If your child is not comfortable meeting someone, take that cue and wait. When you do make an introduction, keep it light and short. Allow your child and your person to develop a relationship on their own and at their own pace.

 

Kanye.

It’s very odd to sit down and write a newsletter about Kanye West. Sure, some of his songs are pretty catchy. Yes, he is super famous and his family is every where on social media. Normally, we don’t think about him at all though BUT his recent, erratic behavior makes him worth discussing from a legal perspective.

In case you have been cut off from social media and traditional news, West has experiencing some animated, manic behaviors as of late. His wife has confirmed that he is bipolar and his behavior suggests that West is currently manic and off of medications which would control the extreme range of behavior.

Rumors are spreading quickly that a divorce is on the horizon. If a divorce does happen, we would expect that there will be a discussion about custody of the children and some bumps in the divorce process (even if there is a prenuptial agreement).

Mental Health May Have an Effect on the Divorce Process 
The courts will not force someone to stay married to anyone, including a person with a mental health condition; however, the process is often a bit more of a roller coaster.
1. Concern over physical safety during the process and when that person lives alone. Depending on the person’s condition, he or she may be more likely to harm themselves or others. There are safe guards and orders that can be put into place to keep everyone as safe as possible;
2. Financial needs of the person with mental health concerns may require that a greater portion of the marital assets be allocated to him or her. Alimony may also be necessary if he or she is unable to work or has significant medical expenses; and
3. The process itself may take longer.  The person may not participate because they can’t find the strength to do so; this can be extremely frustrating for a party who just wants to get through the process as quickly as possible.

Mental Health May Have an Effect on Child Custody.
The courts evaluate each case individually to assess the best interest of the child(ren), which may include a variety of factors related to mental health of a parent:
1. Whether the condition is a short term matter or a lifelong condition;
2. Whether the parent  is actively committed to her treatment or therapeutic plan;
3. Whether the parent’s ability to care for himself or herself is compromised by the condition;
4. Whether and how the condition of the parent effects the safety and overall best interest of the child(ren) and their general safety; and
5. Whether the condition is being caused by use or abuse of drugs.

As always, please let us know if you have any questions regarding how mental health effects child custody and divorce or anything else.

We Are Everywhere.

If you’re like us, you love to get lost in a good book or a movie. Since quarantine started, we have certainly read a lot of books and watched a ton of movies. If you want a peek into our every day, check out these movies:

1. My Cousin Vinny: Hands down, one of the funniest movies EVER;
2. Legally Blonde: Although not totally accurate, there are some similarities to the law school experience;
3. Liar Liar: Because Jim Carey is always funny;
4. Chicago: As awesome as the movie is, the play is even better;
5. Erin Brockovich: The key to every awesome lawyer is having an equally amazing paralegal;
6. To Kill a Mockingbird: Although considered controversial now, it has been considered a time period classic;
7. A Few Good Men: It uses words like honor, code and loyalty;
8. A Civil Action: Weirdly enough, the book version was pre-requisite reading before our first year of law school and the basis of a civil procedure exam question;
9. A Marriage Story: Love, love, love this movie because of how it ends;
10. Kramer vs Kramer:  When the divorce process goes really bad;
11. 12 Angry Men: An interesting perspective of the process during which jurors come to a verdict;
11. The Accused: If you can get through the graphic three minutes, the film is an excellent depiction of a victim’s emotional journey;
12. The Lincoln Lawyer: It probably was not a coincidence that Lincoln hired Matthew McConaughey as their spokes person a few years after the movie’s release;
13. Philadelphia: We dare you not to cry at the end;
14.  Primal Fear: Probably one of the best psychological thrillers of all time;
15. Judgment at Nuremberg: Selected by the United States National Film Registry as one of the most “culturally, historically or aesthetically significant” movies ever made; and
16. Brewster’s Millions: We have never seen someone include such crazy terms in a Will or Trust, but we could certainly have fun trying to spend all that money to inherit the ‘real’ fortune!

What is YOUR favorite movie?

Regards,
John & Faye